Pain is inevitable

Pain is inevitable, that much I have learnt is true. It’s what we make of the pain that we undergo that defines us. I truly believe that.

I used to be the kind of person who just festered in their pain. I’d feel hopeless and rather helpless most times and it would be so terrible for me. So utterly terrible. I wouldn’t try to change my situation or grow as a result of it if it was unchangeable; instead, I’d just take it until it absolutely destroyed me.

I don’t think I’m that person anymore. Or at least, I’m trying my utter best not to be.

I’ve been undergoing some modicum of pain recently. I do not care to mention as a result of what, but I can say that it’s been here for some time. I’ve been doing my best to work through it and around it because the situation is as such that it simply cannot change.

The pain is inevitable, this I know.

So, I’ve begun asking myself a question, starting today: Am I going to let this pain and whatever the problem is drown me? Or am I going to rise above it, rise despite it, and grow into a stronger, antifragile individual?

My answer lies in the second question. I don’t want to be a victim, no matter what situation life throws at me. I want to remain a constantly evolving entity, forever.

I want to use my pain as a tool, as a harness to catapult me to where I want to be in my life.

I refuse to allow pain to deter me and I refuse to allow it to permanently damage me.

I’m a strong, independent woman who can take life’s challenges and Black Swans in her stride.